Offer Truth not Persecution
“Before I tell my story, before I sing my song,
Better you know where I’m comin’ from.”
Miten
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wBoMY0C_A9I
My name is Ann and I have incest in my history.
I say it that way for a very specific reason:
Incest is something that happened in my past.
I am not a victim.
I am not a survivor.
I am a whole, healthy human being and I have found peace and joy that no one can ever take away from me. Not in spite of incest, and not really because of it.
Peace and joy just are.
Peace in our minds and in our lives is a cause-effect relationship.
(me)
“You move totally away from reality
when you believe there is a legitimate reason to suffer.”
Byron Katie, Loving What Is, page 288
“To empathize does not mean to join in suffering,
for that is what you must refuse to understand.”
A Course in Miracles , Text, Chapter 16, 1st sentence, Page 330
You know all of this.
If you don’t know that you know, I cannot tell you.
Why?
Because we humans lie to ourselves. Then we hang on tight to those lies.
We think we don’t want to know the truth. And when we feel that way, no one can convince us otherwise. We are “true believers” of our own lies.
Logic is useless. Appeals to emotion are useless.
The only thing that works is for us to notice that we are suffering and to decide there has to be a better way.
The only thing that works is looking for a better way.
When we look, we find it. And only then.
Sometimes we find it alone. Sometimes others point us to it.
The X-Files slogan was amusing to me: “The truth is out there.”
Well, yes, it’s everywhere.
“The truth is in here” is equally true.
Love, Ann
“You are not trapped in the world you see, because its cause can be changed. This change requires, first, that the cause be identified and then [second] let go, so that [third] it can be replaced. The first two steps in this process require your cooperation. The final one does not.”
A Course in Miracles Workbook, W-p1.23.5:1-4
I must have decided wrongly, because I am not at peace.
I made the decision myself, but I can also decide otherwise.
I want to decide otherwise, because I want to be at peace.
I do not feel guilty, because the Holy Spirit*** will undo all the
consequences of my wrong decision if I will let Him.
I choose to let Him, by allowing Him to decide for God*** for me.
A Course in Miracles, (T-5.VII.6:7-1 1)
*** The concept of “God” or “Holy Spirit” is totally optional, and for me best replaced with “truth.” See prior posts for my transitions on this topic.