Do You Want to Know the Truth?

People often write me to ask if I know a good book on how to heal X.

The answer is yes. I do.  Here is my reply to the most recent request.

Good morning, dear,

 

Kitties are good. I’m good. Roommate good. Etc. Thanks for asking. Hope you get to 100% again soon.

 

Last week I asked a good friend for books on healing sex addiction, that might have stories with examples of those who have made it through that, for another friend of mine. I searched the bookstores and online.  When my other friend replied, he said, “Nothing is going to be as good as Katie’s books.”

 

I realized after doing the literature search that he was right.

 

This is certainly true of the abandonment issues, as well. In fact, just about any “issues” will become much clearer if you want to know the truth and do “The Work.”

 

You can go read all kinds of books that will analyze and over-analyze and come up with theories and methods, and basically commit the error that Einstein pointed out decades ago, which is that we cannot solve problems at the level of thinking that created them.

 

The specific quote is this:

 

“The world we have made, as a result of the level of thinking we have done thus far, creates problems we cannot solve at the same level of thinking at which we created them.”

                 Quoted in Des MacHale, Wisdom (London, 2002).

 

 

However, if you want a level of thinking at which you *CAN* solve problems, write Worksheets and ask the 4 questions and do the Turn Arounds. 

 

You will probably need help to begin. There is a free hotline on Katie’s site.

 

   Do The Work Helpline:

 

http://www.instituteforthework.com/community/index.php?name=nd_user_hotline&view=yes

 

 

Or, I can help you through, but that’s my business and I’d have to ask you to pay me, and if you use the free hotline you can save that money.

 

 

Before you even get the books, ask yourself one question:  Do you want to know the truth?

 

If you do, go for it. If you find you do not, don’t bother trying to read these books or ask these questions. You will just go around in circles.

 

Links to the books below. You can get used ones for cheap on Amazon.

 

Love, Ann

Paperback from $6.98
 
http://www.amazon.com/gp/offer-listing/0307345300/ref=sr_1_olp_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1256559568&sr=8-1
 
Hardcover from $4.20
 
http://www.amazon.com/gp/offer-listing/1400045371/ref=sr_1_olp_3?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1256559568&sr=8-3

Dollhouse by Joss Whedon & Eliza Dushku

www.whyiwatch.com

www.fox.com/dollhouse

www.whedonesque.com

Is Eliza Dushku coming from anger and wanting justice?

What is her history?

What does she think or know about forgiveness?

And gratitude?

I would really like to know. She has our attention. What will she do with it?

Truth IS

 

Offer Truth not Persecution

 

“Before I tell my story, before I sing my song,
Better you know where I’m comin’ from.”
Miten

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wBoMY0C_A9I

My name is Ann and I have incest in my history.

I say it that way for a very specific reason:

Incest is something that happened in my past.

I am not a victim.

I am not a survivor.

I am a whole, healthy human being and I have found peace and joy that no one can ever take away from me. Not in spite of incest, and not really because of it.

Peace and joy just are.

 

Peace in our minds and in our lives is a cause-effect relationship.

(me)

 

“You move totally away from reality

when you believe there is a legitimate reason to suffer.”

Byron Katie, Loving What Is, page 288

 

“To empathize does not mean to join in suffering,

for that is what you must refuse to understand.”

A Course in Miracles , Text, Chapter 16, 1st sentence, Page 330

 

You know all of this.

If you don’t know that you know, I cannot tell you.

Why?

Because we humans lie to ourselves. Then we hang on tight to those lies.

We think we don’t want to know the truth. And when we feel that way, no one can convince us otherwise. We are “true believers” of our own lies.

Logic is useless. Appeals to emotion are useless.

The only thing that works is for us to notice that we are suffering and to decide there has to be a better way.

The only thing that works is looking for a better way.

When we look, we find it. And only then.

Sometimes we find it alone. Sometimes others point us to it.

The X-Files slogan was amusing to me: “The truth is out there.”

Well, yes, it’s everywhere.

“The truth is in here” is equally true.

Love, Ann

“You are not trapped in the world you see, because its cause can be changed. This change requires, first, that the cause be identified and then [second] let go, so that [third] it can be replaced. The first two steps in this process require your cooperation. The final one does not.”

                  A Course in Miracles Workbook, W-p1.23.5:1-4

I must have decided wrongly, because I am not at peace.
I made the decision myself, but I can also decide otherwise.
I want to decide otherwise, because I want to be at peace.
I do not feel guilty, because the Holy Spirit*** will undo all the
consequences of my wrong decision if I will let Him.
I choose to let Him, by allowing Him to decide for God*** for me.

                   A Course in Miracles,  (T-5.VII.6:7-1 1)

*** The concept of “God” or “Holy Spirit” is totally optional, and for me best replaced with “truth.” See prior posts for my transitions on this topic.