Archive for August, 2007
August 27, 2007
Paul had a little epiphany last week.
He called and said, “I get it! Even the “bad” parts were good” and went on to describe his experiences and insights. That understanding has deepened and continued. We’ve been on the phone for hours again. I love that.
That may be all we needed for this romantic story to move forward. Looks like we’ll be together all of next week.
He told me to send a description of a ring I liked.
I do love him, you know.
Love, Ann
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August 14, 2007
Say I told you that you were a 500 pound green alien?
Would that bother you? No.
You don’t believe you are a 500 pound green alien. You don’t even think they exist.
But if I told you that you were too fat or too dumb or a failure or whatever your own pet insecurity is, yes, it would bother you a lot.
It would also bother you if you thought I was fat or dumb or a failure, but I’m sure you could care less if I were a 500 pound green alien, other than you might want to capture, study or talk to me.
Why?
Because you believe it of yourself.
And you don’t like it.
In other words, you agree!!!
And you don’t like that in yourself.
Do you see the way out?
Would you like to reduce the stress and enjoy it the next time someone criticizes you/agrees with you?
Try saying this:
“I can see that. What do you suggest?”
Try it. See what happens.
Many thanks and much love to Steven Sashen who taught me this much truer perspective on annoyance.
Love, Ann
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August 13, 2007
someone else does something that bothers you when you do it.
Seriously.
We only get upset when we have done the same thing and not liked ourselves for doing it. Or when we have that same annoying character trait.
Why?
Because you believe it of yourself. And you don’t like it.
In other words, might you be at least as annoyed with yourself as with the other person?
Check.
What are you favorite annoyances?
Fat people?
Stupid people?
People who drive like you do? 
Do you see the way out?
Relax. It’s obviously fine to be that way. You’re that way.
You might wonder whether you could be any different or do things any differently?
Well, could you?
I’ll bet if you could have you would have.
And you certainly can’t go back in time and change it now!
Isn’t that a relaxing thought?
It’s done. Nothing you can do about it.
Which way do you think it will be easier to remember and see a different choice in the future? Peaceful or annoyed?
Peaceful, of course.
So relax.
The way not to be annoyed by others is to accept that you’re sometimes fat or dumb or you drive crazy .
And the way to do it differently in the future, is to relax.
Many thanks and much love to Steven Sashen who taught me this much truer perspective on annoyance.
Love, Ann
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August 4, 2007
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A1ZVV09vTU8
How about getting off of these antibiotics
How about stopping eating when I’m filled up
How about them transparent dangling carrots (!)
How about that ever elusive kudo
Thank you India
Thank you terror
Thank you disillusionment
Thank you frailty
Thank you consequence
Thank you thank you silence
How about me not blaming you for everything
How about me enjoying the moment for once
How about how good it feels to finally forgive you
How about grieving it all one at a time
Thank you India
Thank you terror
Thank you disillusionment
Thank you frailty
Thank you consequence
Thank you thank you silence
The moment I let go of it was
The moment I got more than I could handle
The moment I jumped off of it was
The moment I touched down
How about no longer being masochistic
How about remembering your divinity
How about unabashedly bawling your eyes out
How about not equating death with stopping
Thank you India
Thank you providence
Thank you disillusionment
Thank you nothingness
Thank you clarity
Thank you thank you silence
yeah yeah
ahh ohhh
ahhh ho oh
ahhh ho ohhhhhh
yeaahhhh yeahh
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